Happy Valentine’s Day 2/14/05

Today is the day we set aside to honor romance and intimacy.

The band literally saved my marriage.

Before my husband got banded, we were heading right towards a divorce. Before the band, all intimacy had left our relationship. I’m not just talking about sex, but the emotional and spiritual connection that are key components of a healthy and loving relationship. He had gained nearly 200 pounds in the first year we were married, and that was too much for our relationship to handle. He had brought in a whole second big person…. We had ceased to be husband and wife, and instead became roommates who had little interaction. He had even stopped sleeping in bed with me. Part of the reason for this was that at 600 pounds he couldn’t breathe lying down, and would sleep sitting propped up on the sofa.

Well, Mike is currently sitting at minus 180 pounds, which puts him back at 420 pounds. He is once again the romantic man that courted me and won my heart, despite my shallowness at not wanting to date someone that freaking big. Once again, he is emotionally available to me.

When I go home to visit, we are now constantly going and doing! Movies! Shopping at Home Depot!

It is amazing how a relationship can grow when you aren’t waiting for the other person to drop dead…

I won’t be banded yet for another month.

Part of me didn’t want to go anywhere with him, for many reasons. Folks with a BMI as high as his have a whole set of “special” problems…. And it just wasn’t pleasant being around him.

Thank all the Gods and Goddesses that the band was invented!