Hugs 2/21/05
We know that the largest sex organ is skin. Not the dangly bits, or the hidden bits, but the skin. The most important sex organ is not the dangly bits, or the hidden bits, but the brain. One of the things that you need to do is convince yourself that you are sexy NOW. Trust me, I know what I’m asking of you. Think about the things that make you feel sexy, it might be a fabulous perfume, or the caress of silk, or something totally unique to you.

One of the things that helped me was belly dancing. Yup, I was the fattest belly dancer in my troupe, but I’ve been generally the fattest everything… Part of belly dancing is the attitude—you have to make people believe you are hot stuff. By pretending that I was hot stuff I finally convinced myself that I actually am hot stuff. You may not believe it for a long while, but like with any skill, after you practice long enough, you will have that skill.

Trust me, once you start practicing this new skill, the skill of being sexy, your DH will be have no need of porn…

My DH teases that his problem isn’t that he’s overweight, but that he’s oversexed….